The other side of me is my reluctant Type A personality. I am a complete control monkey when it comes to my kids, my ex�s and some of my friends. I do because I have to. But I have always secretly wanted to not have to do it. And now, I have found a way � well, sorta. See, My Boy is also a Type A personality � though I must admit he is much more aggressive about it than I am (probably because he DOES NOT lack the decision making gene)
I admit that I usually relinquish my controls some when he is around (except for the majority of the kids stuff due to his inexperience with a couple of toddlers and the One Prized Toy). I love this about him and about Us. He gets to be in control and I feel almost relaxed inside. It is an almost heavenly experience. And I think it makes for a little more fairness in our relationship.
But last night we brinked on disaster. It started out fairly harmless � my bedroom needed to be rearranged due to the new placement of my DSL service and computer. No problem. I started to move things around and then would pause to survey the damage. Herein I put myself into Risk-Zone1� rearranging the bedroom means making decision about the life and movement of one�s furniture. I managed to make one solid decision which involved moving my small dresser to the half wall. I was very proud of myself.
During this slow and painful process My Boy decided to be his more-than-wonderful-helpful-self and join me in the bedroom. This made me happy�until the moving began. I was all set to relinquish commands for a short while until he put his hand on my computer desk and the alarms in my brain sounded. My Type A personality resurfaced with a vengeance � and I was almost angered by his decision to move MY stuff around to however he pleased. This beast was still being held in though, by my strong inability and �watch-me-run-away� tendancies towards decision making. So instead of me letting lose in anger � I ended up just a shy bit to the side of sulky.
He noticed � I spilled � we talked and all is good. Plus he even moved my dresser back where I had DECIDED it would go.
(For those keeping score)
Indecision 0 Techdragon 1
Hmm... maybe this IS built to last the test of time or at least last our first almost fight.
Love,
tech