He did not recognize him nor know what to call him. He has been calling James daddy for almost two years of his life and now people are telling him that this other man is his father. I think that I have made a mistake and am determined not to duplicate it. I hope that this does not offend TBND but I think that my kids will continue to call him by his first name even if we stay together and get married. I think that when they are older and truely understand what is going on- maybe they will choose to refer to him as their step-dad but I think that this "replacement dad" theory is backfiring. P.J. should realize that he has a dad and had a step-dad. I don't think that he is old enough yet. I do not want Skeeter to be confused either. James is his dad and if I do marry someone else then Skeeter will have a person to call step-dad (when he is old enough to realize the difference.)
I am glad that Gaylan wants to see P.J. even though it has been this long. I think that Gaylan has changed his life a lot recently - he has married, started a daycare with his new wife, and is helping her raise her kids. I also realize that P.J. is not a baby and is a very capable three year-old. He is old enough to stay away from home.
I truely thought that I would not be able to handle it. I guess that is why I selfishly wanted him not to go. This has given me some quiet time and also some time to focus on Skeeter without P.J. there to be the older brother. I think that it has been good for him. Skeeter is a little more attached this week because he doesn't understand where P.J. is. I can handle that.
Gaylan wants to see P.J. one weekend a month. I can do that.